Earlier discussion explained how “Michchhami Dukkadam” can affect the type of nature of karmas, but there is also another reason to say “Michchhami Dukkadam”. The physical bondage of karmas can be loose (sithil), tight (gadha), tighter (nidhatta), and tightest (nikachit). The loose, tight bondage can easily be shed off by repenting and apologizing for our deeds which caused them. The moderate bondage can be shed off by austerity while sever bondage can be only shed off by suffering the results of those karmas. Now going back to realize before we say “Michchhami Dukkadam”, first we realize to that me have or might have done some harms to others and regret for doing so and then we feel sorry for doing so and want to apologize for the same. So the repenting and expressing apology by saying “Michchhami Dukkadam” would help us to get rid of some of our karmas ahead of time which can change our future for a better. While we are in mood to be a better person we can do a little more contemplation and it would put on a different path. So I am taking an opportunity to add a few more words which should go along with friendship. Those contemplation including friendship are:
1) Maitri Bhavana (Thinking of being a Friend)
2) Pramod Bhavana (Thinking of Appreciation)
3) Karuna Bhavana (Thinking of Compassion)
4) Madhyastha Bhavana (Think to staying neutral or uninvolved)
Let us understand how these bhavanas play important roles in our lives, how they can keep us away from bad karmas, and ultimately how they can improve our overall chances to uplift our souls.
1. Maitri Bhavana (Thinking of a Friendship)
Jinas had taught us, “We must be a friend to all living beings.” The feeling of friendship brings love and respect for others. It, also, initiates a feeling of brotherhood among all and in turn leaves no room for harm, deceit or quarrelsomeness with anybody. If we contemplate on Maitri Bhavana our thoughts, words, and actions will not be harsh, and we will not hurt anybody. On the contrary, we will support and protect everybody. Friendship will lead us to be tolerant, forgiving, and caring for one another. Therefore by developing a friendship with all living beings, we will avoid bad karma.
2. Pramod Bhavana (Thinking of Appreciation)
In this bhavana, we admire the success of our friends, spiritual leaders and Arihants. One of the most destructive forces in our lives is jealousy. However, friendship combined by admiration, destroys jealousy. As jealousy subsides, negative impulses are turned into positive ones, and in time, you will be at peace.
3. Karuna Bhavana (Thinking of Compassion)
Instead of succeeding, many of our friends may be getting into trouble for things they should not be doing, and even those who are successful may be accumulating vices such as greed and ego. If such is the case then, they are not on the right path, and may they be weak, helpless, and in distress. At a time like this, you should contemplate on the Karuna Bhavana and show compassion towards them instead of being disgusted towards them or hating them. Show them a right path with patience, tolerance, and forgiveness and offer them the needed support. In this way, not only will you be avoiding bad karma, but so will your friends.
4. Madhyastha Bhavana (Think of staying neutral or uninvolved)
Life appears to be nothing but involvement. Sometimes life works out favourable and sometimes it does not. So when the things don’t work out, instead of getting disappointed, angry, or more involved, you should contemplate on Madhyastha Bhavana which leads to feeling that ‘I did my best to resolve the situation.’ If someone does not want to understand, then leave him/her alone without getting further involved. You should simply hope that one of these days, he/she may understand and change. By observing Madhyastha Bhavana, you will remain in equanimity, instead of provoking turmoil in your mind. When your mind stays neutral and uninvolved it keeps karma away. In short, you can avoid influx of bad karma and stay in peace while living in worldly life by developing a friendship towards all living beings, admiring their success, holding their hands when they are in distress, and leaving them alone at times when they do not understand what is right or wrong.
So, until it becomes the natural way of life to observe the above bhavanas, one should contemplate on:
“KHAMEMI SAVVE JIVE,
SAVVE JIVA KHAMANTU ME
METTI ME SAVVE BHUYESU,
VERAM MAJAHAM N KENAI”
as many times as needed. If there is a goal, then there will be an achievement.